How to Mend a Broken Heart

I found out something surprising yesterday and it was a mixture of all that cannot be mixed; the experience was very intense, it was as happiness and pain at the same time. Finally, I understood something that I would like to share.
I thought that I had found a great feeling and said to myself: ” This is great” but it happened that I was turned down. I tried again and was turned down again. And filled with courage and conviction, I went back. And I was turned down for the third time. I tried to understand what was happening? I built my hopes up for somebody with a heart of stone and then, I could understand that the stone is just a stone, it cannot give more or less than the stone gives. And my conclusion was that at times, we keep trapped to an idea and we want the situation to be our own way and we do the planning but it just does not happen: The sun does not come out at night. The withered flower will not be fresh as before. Then, it will be better to plant the seed and harvest the fruit and not to keep living in a fantasy.
Things are as they are and we have to accept them, then we will be sure, otherwise, we will go up the mountain and try to use wings to fly but we will fall because we were not born to fly. The experience was happy and painful but I could understand that although there are limits, they don’t limit me, they guide me to the safe path. If I try to change things, if I try to change the persons, they will not be themselves. It is much better to understand than to dream too much, expecting too much. But I will not cease living, instead, I will appreciate more what I have and not have, but not to force things but rather to flow among them. That is what I understood.
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Overcoming Desperation and Chaos

Although man may be facing moments of desperation and chaos, if he truly wants to change with all his heart, then, God will not abandon him, on the contrary, God will exalt and will bring him out of that fog, nourishing him with His Presence.
God will give him strength and will bring light to his life, peace to his heart and will make him prosper, because God is true.
It is very certain that all who look for God and know Him, will overcome the obstacles, confusion and depression.
God is true, He is peace, joy and Love.
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How to Love

Love is such a beautiful word, with so many extraordinary attributes. Unfortunately most are unknown. And this is not to form a long ugly chain of criticism, but to contribute something very clear and simple to learn and appreciate.
God is blessing and this means plenitude of life and for a better understanding -of blessing and plenitude of life- we have to specify that they mean, self respect and respect for others; and the quality of life and its plenitude are derived from this. The spiritual greatness that we may reach can never be far from humility since Love always gives from Himself : Tenderness, care, conscientiousness.
 He does not procrastinate, does not refuse, does not forsake. Love is permanent presence of exquisite sensibility, since Love is loyalty and attention.
 When we Love, we become absorbed with the Beloved and we learn to flow in the glory and perfect harmony, which becomes eternal path of solidarity, loyalty and fidelity with what is good. Love does not force, Love delivers and is full of wisdom. Love is profound and always joyful because every moment of Love creates more Love for the one who gives and the one who receives.  Therefore, the loyalty of Love is a spiritual experience of human growth and Divine realization. Much has been said about soul mates but every soul is twin with what is good, every soul is twin to fidelity, to selflessness and to friendship.
 Love is neither lukewarm, faint, casual, nor indifferent, lacking enthusiasm, generosity or even desire. On the contrary, Love is the only bridge, the only way between the creature and the Creator, between man and his fellow beings. To learn to Love, we have to be conscious of the Universal Love, which is not the love who only uses, gets satisfied, and leaves, abandons, afterwards.
Love is wonderful essence, renovated in the hope of becoming whole, pure and perfect in Love.

How to Overcome the Fear of Failure

Success and failure are two antagonistic, important energies, which are developed through our capacity of self Love and they are the origin of either success or failure.

The method to overcome fear is acceptance, and this acceptance has to do with forgiveness for ourselves and for others. Since, very deep inside of us, a child has been living. This child, needs a support, which maybe, never received. Maybe what he experienced instead, was scorn, rejection and humiliation. This is the reason that the great fears come from this region.

We have to approach this child with great Love for ourselves. And, then, to realize that we also deserve success and progress. And that we have to love and be loved.
Then, those fears that were as chains tying us, will break and our hands will be free, our heart will experience Peace, our purpose will be firm, constant, diligent, showing initiative. Our hands and our life will fill as if full of flowers, of joy, and happiness because we will start to see that the good that we spread is the good that we gather.

We can Accomplish many things in our lives, if only for an instant..

We may have not understood  many things
and we may have missed  many opportunities
Even more … we may have been mistaken
in our judgments and actions
All this is part of the stages of the existence,
sad parts in a life that goes away
And dreams that vanish…
For not seen the reality….
But all this
can be absolutely disentangled
because evolution believes and insists
on people been able to excel.
God loves us deeply
and He will never abandon us
We only have to look for a sincere change.
We may have felt very far from Him
but, He will never abandon us
and, this is Wisdom:
that nothing will remain in darkness
that we can accomplish many things  in our lives,
we can return to the light
where our heart will have peace
And by suppressing our fears and doubts
we will reach understanding
and we will be renewed
because we will not dwell in the mistake
If only for an instant…
we open our heart to God.

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Author: Oscar Basurto Carbonell
Mystic Healing Art

Forgiveness and Forgetting

 

To forgive is larger than to forget. Since, it is forgiven not because the wound is not open anymore but because I can see beyond my pain to the point of believing that the one who hurt, who damaged me, may be able to change and become a better person. And not to suffer the same wound and not to go through the same desolation again since forgiveness is the most genuine manifestation of the divine presence in the human heart.
Forgiveness does not mean that we are going to pretend that things did not happen, but to be conscious of having been hurt and mistreated but definitely not believing in the mistreatment. The genuine forgiveness is always born of God’s love which strengthens man, and turns him into love itself, not because man is masochistic, neither for the size of the physical, moral, psychological, superficial or permanent wound but because forgiveness is the will of God, who calls to conciliation and to peace to that one who has committed the damage, that one who is the actor and conductor of evil.
This is forgiveness: You hurt me but I call you to Love, so that you can be different, so that you can realize that there is no reason for violence. And you, who hurt me, you are free from the primordial evil since forgiveness is the vocation to an even larger forgiveness, which is that God becomes present in the heart of each one and of all.
That is the reason that to forgive is truly superior, it is to be reborn, to transform and to raise above any conflict. Victim and executioner, then, stop being bully and abused and all darkness will pass because to forgive always is to hope in Love.

 

 

 

Tragedy and Happiness. Listen to the voice of Your Heart

Tragedy and Happiness. Two extremes. Two universal views that are so separated and opposed but that make the incident sinister: This person had a relationship with his great love but he only found out when his beloved had left because he did not realize that he had everything there. He did not appreciate because he had not learned to listen to the voice of his heart. How many times we have had in our hands, how many times we have been close to a treasure that is more valuable than gold but we have lost it in a moment. He had the happiness of knowing love and the sadness of losing it. It may have been better, not to have known it.
It happened that the man and the woman, the professional, the craftsman, but finally, the human being, who had attention, affection, dedication, who had the means, the instrument to express himself to plenitude; not only he let her go, but he never saw her again. And then he realized that he had lost her. And I ask: What would an angel do without wings? What would a man do without his eyes, his hands? What would a body do without a heart? How would be the life without illusions? What would a being do without another being? What would happen to a seed without soil? What can the night do without stars? What would the day do without the sun? What would the life be without love? What can be done when there was a home and there is no home now? What can be done when there was warmth and now, only coldness stay? If he drank honey before, now, he does not drink anything. His throat dried, nobody can say “I love you” or “I miss you” anymore because if it is said, the mouth bleeds. What happens to the one who had everything in abundance and he has nothing now? Only the remorse of what could have been. He had wings and an infinite sky where to fly to. He had poetry, happiness with whom to share but he did not see it. He was blind, he forgot, he went to sleep and then he awoke as in a dream. Where is your heart? You are not here any more. Where are you? What paths are you walking by now? The nostalgia; the heart bleeds, the soul is empty because of that lost love because he did not know to give her the right place. What is life good for? What are the dreams good for? What are the illusions good for? If there is nobody to share them with.

How many times we judge in an uncivilized and stupid way, the beings who surround us and with a knife or sword, we frighten them away and we punish them. What is the reason? Do we believe that we are perfect? Can’t we understand? Is the world perfect, maybe? Is it more important than the money? More important than the position? More important than our authority? Than our judgment? Do we think that we are God, maybe? What a nonsense! We are not and never will be God. We are creatures but when we think that we have authority, power, geniality, then we start to frighten away the persons who were close. We treat them like trash, like paper dolls. We do not look for their smiles, their happiness because we only were for them like a scissor cutting, castrating everything while thinking that we are doing the right thing. But then, we succeed and everything comes to an end. Love leaves, happiness disappears. The judge and the executioner. He stays alone, there is nobody else. The children, the couple, the friends, all went away because he frightened them away. Nobody is perfect. But what did we do? We mistreated them, we humiliate them and love left. It broke in pieces that cannot be mended. And now, we have become a curse, a jail and our faults are written on the walls, that shout and remind us. Who are we? We are the ones who think that life is a constant examination and that we do not want to approve anybody. We make them unhappy because we saw ourselves like the owners of the love, but the love left to never come back. If you are reading this and it reminds you about the way you are, then, you can change. And if you have the loved one by your side, embrace her and ask for forgiveness and be happy. But do not lose her because you will also lose yourself.

 

 

The Wounded Heart. For Reflection

Man is a very complex being, who in most occasions, does not understand himself. It is very important to overcome the limits that are within ourselves.
These are ghosts that seriously tend to materialize and when this happens, then, -unfortunately- is too late.
That man had a great, magnificent and wonderful illusion. He had an easy laugh and hundreds of fantasies would pass through his mind. It seemed that he was in love. His couple was a flower for him and she also meant his whole universe, she was so important that he saw through her eyes. And because of her, his enamored heart would go on beating. He was the valley and she was the mountain. He was darkness and she was light, so much light that he could not see anything but her. Then, something happened: They were together and she confused his name. She did not do it because of infidelity or for wrong doing, but she called him the name that she used to call her favorite toy when she was a child. But he did not understand and the incident turned his light of illusion into violent fire that burned all his being. And his love became the ghost of jealousy, and doubt and rage came into his heart .Those feelings started living in him like furious animals. Jealousy was growing more and more in that obsessive and angry mind and his passion became a very sick feeling. He began to follow and investigate her. His mind, his dream turned into a mountain, that was too heavy to carry. It seemed like lead. And he would think: ” She is mine and nobody else”
Their next meetings were more and more tense and his need to reclaim and doubt, turned the relationship into a nightmare. And he would say: ” You are lying, you are deceiving me. You don’t love me” And she became his victim and he became full of inner monsters because his mind was a battlefield. It was a flower against a sword. An angel against a demon. And a drop of water against the desert. The dreams and poetry became salt and vinegar. His heart would no longer was laughing but crying and cursing. This is the way of obsession that leads to lack of reflection and turns us into miserable slaves. The human mind is easy prey to confusion. And that man turned the relationship in a military machinery. Then, the day came that she wanted him to react and because of this, she tried to leave him, because he was no longer the one she used to know. And that insane mind became uncontrollable and desperate. And to his eyes and ears it meant that his beloved was no longer his possession. He felt that he was his owner, his master, a powerful god and she was his creation. There was, in fact,  a curse in the relationship. They had consumed the values of purity and candor, as well as tenderness, caresses and kisses. He no longer loved, but demanded. He would no longer kiss but bit, he wanted the blood to run. And when violence is not stopped, then the next step is death. One day, he believed that he saw her, but he was no longer seeing right. He was so disturbed that his morbid mind and sick passion chose a moment and became a dagger. In that ominous moment, he turned her into his eternal victim. He buried his dagger in her heart while absurdly repeating: “I loved you”
We have heard about so many cases like this. Inner violence is an evil of infernal proportions. More innocent victims die every day than war casualties.
What is happening? Maybe we have not being taught that love does not mean only possession.
Love is understanding, patience, tolerance and renewed love on a daily basis.
Place a flower in front of your heart and take care of it daily, but do not turn it into the sun of your day, because you will not see the flower, instead you will be blinded by an unreal passion.
Walk slow because the boat of love is not in a hurry to reach the other shore. Its art is to navigate in eternity. Do not turn tenderness and the path into a loan. If you reclaim too high interest, your love will fill with avarice.
Love is a seed where a wonderful plant lives, that make us all human beings, children of a true home, where there is no violence and where things are not imposed by aggression but rather by the finest consideration.
Love is vast and profound like the sea. It has a lot of inner life, that renovates and re-invents. It is pure and crystalline water where we can submerge without doubts and fears. Let’s not follow the example of that man, who out of desperation, of the terrible disease of jealousy, that became violence and with that dagger that he used on his beloved and he also buried the cold death in himself.
But our story will not have a tragic end. We will transform that vision of darkness with the magic of writing. Let’s go back to the moment in which the man was with his beloved and when his ghosts were being untied and his terrible jealousy started. Let’ go back…
When that man heard his beloved confusing his name. In that moment, instead of allowing his mind to become perturbed and the whole situation to turn into an ugly reality. In that moment and with great care, he asked her: “Who are you calling? And she answered with great serenity: ” It is that you are like my beloved toy” And what could have become a nightmare, was only a reason
to laugh.
Let’s take care and let’s cultivate serenity and peace. Be like an expert captain. When the sea turns agitated and enraged, he keeps the calm, because he knows that after turmoil, serenity returns.

The Spiritual Awakening

If you search under the stones, you will find dirt, insects but if you look for in heaven, you will find Truth and Wisdom. You will have the spiritual awakening according where you look for.
If you want water, don’t search in the desert, if you want light, don’t search in the darkness, if you want peace, don’t search in the war.
If you truly want to be spiritually awake, then, try to become a better person, every new day, but not only look into your heart but in the heart of God. Then, you will know what the Spiritual Awakening is.

How to Overcome Our Weaknesses and Find Strength.

The spiritual life is integral and sustains, cures, modifies and improves all the areas of the human being. For this to happen, of course, is necessary to dedicate time and attention, in order to have the optimal and most appropriate resources, to overcome and transform every type and grade of limitation, that is to say:
The lack of knowledge is a limitation. The misinformation is a limitation. The excesses are limitations. The deficiency is a limitation. The lack of purpose is a limitation. The lack of interest is a limitation. The lack of responsibility is a limitation. The lack of humility is a limitation. And thus, we can find many forms of negation and each one will have to do with the knowledge and applied use.
 It is easy to become enthusiastic in both opposites and to tire out or to lose confidence and stability and not to have self understanding. Confusing, then, the priorities and to walk in life as a disoriented person. Even worse, as a person who lives in negation of himself and his actions.
The limitations cover many aspects. and are like a plague that comes to society and becomes a center of destruction. Mainly, when the limitations belong to the psycho-emotional health, by example, people who use drugs. These persons, self limit themselves, creating dependency.

In addition, they have lost hope and they live locked up in the limits of passion, vanity and pride.
In order to overcome the limits, man needs to revive his spiritual values. The key is found in having confidence and friendship towards what is good and healthy. And to do this as a discipline of life, not like a load, but like a practical doctrine, in which he works to make specific, direct, and immediate goals, in order not to feel alone or abandoned. Also, to make future goals where he will reach success and achievement, that will bring mental sanity. The only limits of man, are found when he does not know: Love, charity, surrender, and service. But when these virtues of life, are applied, man retakes life and leaves beyond distrust, getting stronger every day in a spiritual path of peace and progress. In God, we find our strength. And in the heart of man, the possibility of reaching it.

  

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